One of the biggest misconceptions about my work is that I must dislike men. I understand why people assume it. Popular culture has painted Dominatrices as angry women in latex, taking revenge on the opposite sex one whip at a time. We're often portrayed as cruel, bitter or somehow seeking to punish. If the session calls for such disciplined, then of course the role is established with aplomb. But behind every great scene is a reality that begins with trust and mutual rapport.

It feels rather wonderful to be writing this. To let you know that Lady Ava is home. For the past couple of months I've been unusually quiet, and for once it wasn't because I was tucked away creating mischief. Life simply demanded that I stop. In June I underwent major surgery which resulted in the removal of my uterus. It weighed just over 2kg, which is rather astonishing when you think about carrying that around every day without realising quite how much your body has been